A Guide to Giving Neuroinclusive Christmas Gifts

If you’re struggling to think of a gift for your Autistic friend or family member that feels special, or if you want to be more neuroinclusive this Christmas, you’re not alone.

Most people can relate to the experience of not knowing what to get someone for Christmas.

However, Autistic people, just like non-Autistic (or Allistic) people, will want different things depending on their personality and interests.

That means there is no such thing as a list of present ideas that’s guaranteed to include the perfect gift for your Autistic friend or family member.

Instead, consider these four points before you go shopping.

1. If you’re stuck for ideas, ask

Lots of people think that it‘s cheating to ask someone what they want for Christmas, but many people would prefer to be asked for what they want over receiving a gift they’ll never use.

There may be something your friend or family member really wants for Christmas, so don’t waste time, energy and money trying to think of a gift when it would be easier to ask.

This can also reduce some of the stress for your loved one on Christmas Day, especially if they don’t like the surprise nature of gifts.

2. Check if the gift is sensory friendly

Gifts that make loud noises or have strong scents may not be sensory-friendly for your loved one and may be overwhelming.

If you know your friend or family member likes candles, but are not sure which scents they like, consider getting a gift voucher so they can make the choice themselves.

If you want to get them clothes, you should consider clothes that are in neutral colours or soft materials; if you’re thinking about toys, consider ones that don’t make sounds or flashing lights, or are scent-free.

Remember: Each Autistic person is different and will have different sensory needs. If you’re unsure, it’s always worth asking what their sensory needs are.

3. Consider their interests

Some Autistic people have special interests. This can make gift giving a lot easier as you know exactly what they like.

You could remind yourself of what TV shows your friend or family member likes, sports teams they follow, or hobbies they have. You could also ask. A coffee mug with their favourite animal on it, or merch from their favourite band could be well received gifts.

Remember dot point 2: A gift could be related to their interests, but if it doesn’t meet your loved one’s sensory needs or preferences, it’s not the right gift.

4. Consider money and vouchers

Money and gift vouchers could be good gift options. While some people may think they’re impersonal, they give the receiver choice over what they would like to get.

Vouchers to stores you know your friend or family member likes can add a personal touch and show them that you know them well, while money can be put towards bigger purchases or savings.

If you know your friend or family member wants something but it is out of your budget, giving them some money to go specifically towards that purchase could help them out.

While these points can help, come Christmas Day, it’s important that receiving a gift can be  can be stressful for some Autistic people. They may not react in the way you’d expect, while others may prefer to open their gifts privately.

This doesn’t mean that your friend or family member doesn’t appreciate your gift. Remember not to pressure anyone to open their gifts in front of you, or continuously ask if they like the gift.

Happy gift-giving and Merry Christmas.   

This article is written by Esther MacIsaac