Planning Absences: A Guide for Parents of Autistic Students

School attendance is important, but sometimes absences are necessary. Whether due to family holidays, illness, or personal reasons, it’s essential to recognise that while absences are not encouraged, they are often unavoidable.  

For Autistic students, absences may occur more frequently. School can be overwhelming, and regular breaks can help prevent burnout and support well-being.  

While absences from school are typically discouraged, they can be essential for maintaining a balance between education and mental health. This article outlines some things to consider when planning school absences for your autistic child. 

Consider the Child’s Schedule 

Autistic students may experience sensory overload or exhaustion more intensely, making certain days or events at school more challenging. Big events such as excursions, assignments and exams are tiring, and Autistic students may require a break afterwards. Taking an absence before a big event to rest for it and prepare can reduce tiredness or chance of burnout after the event.  

When scheduling absences, work around your child’s schedule. Some things are unavoidable or there may be subjects that your child does not want to miss. Understanding your child’s schedule will help you determine when a break is most beneficial. 

Consider Half-Days or Less Subjects 

It’s not always necessary for your child to attend the entire school day. If there are particular subjects your child can’t miss, they might attend school for half the day and then take the rest of the day off. Half-days or adjusting the length of the school day can help alleviate the pressure of a full day while still meeting academic requirements. 

If school is particularly overwhelming, you may be able to advocate for flexibility in your child’s curriculum. Subject exemptions may reduce the length of the day and demands placed on your child.  

Consider Your Own Schedule 

As a parent or carer, you also need to plan for how your child’s absence will affect your day. If your child requires supervision at home or needs to be picked up/dropped off for a half day, it’s essential to consider your own work and personal schedule. If you know in advance that an absence may be needed (i.e. after a big event) you can adjust your schedule accordingly.  

Why Plan Absences? 

Planning absences might seem like an extra step, but it can make the school year feel more manageable for both you and your child. Knowing that there are planned breaks ahead can reduce anxiety for your child, especially if school feels like an overwhelming environment. If your child knows that they’ll have time to rest and recuperate, they may feel less pressure to attend every day. 

Planning for absences can also ensure your child does not miss important/unmissable events and activities at school due to burnout. As a parent, it means you can prepare for those breaks by adjusting your work schedule or clearing your social calendar in advance. 

Additionally, you can request in advance to know what your child will be missing that day, allowing your child to decide whether it’s something they’re okay with missing. 

By planning for breaks at the start of each term, you allow your child a small amount of autonomy in deciding when they need time off. This small amount of control can significantly reduce stress and foster a sense of agency over their own school experience. 

Conclusion: Your Child’s Needs Come First

Every child is different, and your child doesn’t have to attend school in the same way other children do.  

The key is discovering what works best for your child – whether that’s adjusting the school schedule, planning regular breaks, or allowing for more flexibility.  

By thoughtfully planning absences, you can help your child navigate school in a way that supports their mental health and well-being.